The Reason Why…
The Reason Why I’m Here Today and why you should stick with me… or not!
See… I started this whole adventure of building my own business, becoming a certified EFT practitioner, becoming a life transformation coach with the Brave Thinking Institute, getting out of the corporate world after more than 20 years of a very successful career, and I started with a pretty good idea of who I wanted to serve… namely healthcare professionals like me, first line responders and front line health workers around the world who suffer from burnout, particularly in the aftermath of the COVID pandemic.
As the famous marketers and coaches of the world today keep telling us: “Your mess is your message”.
Burnout was one of my messes but not the most important one...
I have done lots of things in this life so far, manifested a number of dreams including becoming a doctor, coming to the US, learning to fly planes, becoming a mother, being a vice president in a big corporation and leading a big organization… but what I hadn’t done, up until recently, was clear past trauma that I had experienced, in a way that would empower me to help others.
I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). Intra-familial CSA.
Very few know this about me. And now I’m just adding about 100 more people, all of you in this mailing list, to my list of “in the know”. I am coming out with the same level of challenges and courage that I have seen in my gay friends and patients over the years. Because of shame and stigma and guilt and you name it…, some of my patients had to wait until they were on their deathbed to see their parents come back to them and support them, and tell them they were loved after many years of discriminating indifference or accusations. For me, the situation is reversed, my closest family members have known for a while, but none of my friends, none of my colleagues, not the other members of the family.
And what I read in private social media groups today from other survivors tells me that coming out is definitely not always safe. It sometimes makes it worse. But that’s a story for another day.
The reason I’m ready now is because over the past couple of years, mainly through Emotional Freedom Techniques, I have finally overcome the effects of trauma in my daily life, I have released many triggers from my body and found a level of peace that I had lost when I was 4 years old. I no longer have flashbacks that launched me into a fight/flight/freeze response, I no longer feel constant anger and resentment, I feel more resilient in general. I am on the other side of the tunnel.
Because of this experience, I truly believe that humans can transcend trauma and create a better world. And I make it my mission right now to help these successful humans, survivors of childhood sexual abuse, who are still held back by their past demons, anger and shame and resentfulness, finally get the support they need to find their path to healing and create a life they deserve and love even more.
Having said that, there is a much bigger picture to this, a much broader concern, which is the understanding that childhood sexual abuse, particularly intra-familial CSA, is a plague that must be stopped. And that survivors like me have a responsibility to become not only thrivers but defenders of the next generations. We must lead the charge because we are the ones who can truly understand the impact of this societal injury and convey/translate it for others to grasp and rally behind the fight.
So as I am starting this mission by helping individuals and groups of people, as a coach… one at a time… I am also building a stronger advocacy force that will partner with like-minded organizations like Darkness to Light (they don’t know it yet), brainstorm all aspects of the fight from education, awareness, support of children, which is what most organizations focus on, as well as family dynamics that are responsible for denying these children the right to be heard and protected or even believed. But there is more. There is lack of actions on the perpetrators within the family circle, there is lack of education and awareness amongst perpetrators, there is lack of prevention and harm reduction directly with perpetrators. All of this in the context of the societal dynamics that allow this phenomenon to be ignored, year after year, century after century.
So here are some next steps and where you can support me on this path:
Moving forward, my public and social media activities will be significantly clearer and more targeted to address survivors of childhood trauma in general and CSA in particular
I have created a private Facebook group for “Adults Thrivers after Childhood Trauma”. I will soon hold tapping circles and discussion groups every week in this private setting
I will continue to conduct Vision Workshops throughout the year that will focus more intentionally on survivors of childhood trauma. Hopefully that will lead more and more people who need help to sign up with me for tapping and/or coaching sessions and programs, that I will continue to evolve over time, to meet their needs
I am also looking for partnerships with other like-minded businesses and non-for-profit organizations
I am preparing a TEDx talk on the subject.
What you can do:
Follow me on social media
Interact with my social media posts, invitations, and messages that resonate with you or that you think could help someone near you. Like, Comment, Repost. Any help to disseminate the message will be extremely appreciated
Connect me with organizations that you believe are on the same operating frequency
I am also open to any feedback or comments or suggestions on how to move forward with the mission.
